Annoying People

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I guess you're pretty young (PokeBeach, right?). I can say with certainty that social institutions try to teach passiveness to young people -it got really intense when I was young. Ignore bullies, tell an adult, but back then no one took a stance against bullying. They demonize it now like it's the most awful thing in the world, and to kids who have to suffer through it so much it is. But society is really just afraid of the next Dylan Klebold and Eric Harris (Columbine High School massacre). This notion that you can teach people to deal with their problems by never standing up for themselves, by having to go to someone and deal with the problem by proxy, is not a personal way to handle a personal problem like someone bossing you around for their own amusement.

Physical confrontation is something young people don't fear anymore. There's no consequence to their actions now, at least not until decades down the line when they might realize 'wow, what a loser I've been'. I'm not going to suggest you knock his lights out. Not going to suggest you jump in and pound him. But do something. Push him, threaten him, make it known that you won't stand for it. This is the Internet and I'm not one to talk about my personal life all willy-nilly to just any stranger, but take my word for it on this one -I know what I'm talking about.

Chief Zavala said:
be a user, or be abused.
This is what the world is really like. Don't think that youth is forever. Don't think that people will always be there for you, that you will always have friends -there will come a time when you need to be there for yourself and take on the responsibilities of the world without timidness. Despite how much fun it seems now, it is a dog eat dog world out there, and when minute you turn 18 years old the world doesn't think of you as a kid anymore and it doesn't give a crap about you, and neither will other people who aren't family.
 
PokeMedic said:
Punch him square in the face. This is a serious suggestion. People change their tone quick when things get physical.

I'm not gonna lie, that's a pretty pathetic thing to do. Violence doesn't get much accomplished. Just reset the router (like others have said) and if there's no password, make one so he can't do anything.
 
another thing to do add to pokemedic

youll come to a point in your life when you realize all the friends you thought you had, dont exist. theyre not there for you like they were in school, theyre not asking to hang out, theyre not doing anything anymore. why? because they have control now. they control their lives. they have a life to run.

you have noone else to rely on but yourself. this happens to everyone. everyone says it. you see it all over facebook/twitter/tumblr. people hitting a point when they say something about seeing who their true friends are.

well. im just saying this because you cannot trust anyone else to handle your problems. your parents dont do anything probably because they want you to learn this for yourself. you need to stand up. nobody wants a weakling as a relative who had to cry to everyone to solve their issue for them. thats beyond embarrassing.

so i tell you this as a pokemon player. you need to stand up and solve it with confrontation. it helps you gain confidence and pride within yourself.

thats something the army teaches you. pride and confidence. if you cant look after yourself, howre you to look after your battle buddy? if youre scared, i certainly wouldnt want someone like that next to me.
 
Chief Zavala said:
another thing to do add to pokemedic

youll come to a point in your life when you realize all the friends you thought you had, don't exist. theyre not there for you like they were in school, theyre not asking to hang out, theyre not doing anything anymore. why? because they have control now. they control their lives. they have a life to run.

you have noone else to rely on but yourself. this happens to everyone. everyone says it. you see it all over facebook/twitter/tumblr. people hitting a point when they say something about seeing who their true friends are.

well. im just saying this because you cannot trust anyone else to handle your problems. your parents don't do anything probably because they want you to learn this for yourself. you need to stand up. nobody wants a weakling as a relative who had to cry to everyone to solve their issue for them. thats beyond embarrassing.

so i tell you this as a pokemon player. you need to stand up and solve it with confrontation. it helps you gain confidence and pride within yourself.

thats something the army teaches you. pride and confidence. if you cant look after yourself, howre you to look after your battle buddy? if youre scared, i certainly wouldnt want someone like that next to me.
Actually they're not doing anything because my brother is such a jerk, he pushes them around all the time. He is basically spoiled, and never think things through, just like my parents, they put the router in his room because he is the oldest. They are all really arrogant and makes me feel I don't exist. I can tell my mom a hundred things and she'll say " yeah " but never get to it. I cannot do anything by myself because I have no tool. Most of the stuff I have I work hard for whereas my brother gets his from my parents without question because he's older. I don't really mind him older or having all the stuff I don't have. I just HATE how he never considers his actions. He uses perhaps ALL of the words people wouldn't use in public. He even uses it in public and people ignore him. He throws all his frustration on me, 3/4 of the time, I really don't want to be around him AT ALL. When I go to my cousins, school, parties, or anywhere without him or my family, where I am alone it makes me feel a lot better. At home I can't do anything but watch him throw threats at me. I grew up not violence but my brother differs, he thinks everything is about stength so he fistfights, throws, shoves, all the non-sense and when I try talking to him, usually he ends up " Shut up or I'll close the wireless . " This always happen when I have a seriously good point when I'm talking to him, usually comparing other people's attitude/action to his own . He is getting super annoying, cruel, mean, and INSANE. He wasn't always like that, I loved him back then when he would share. Ever since my mom had brought a computer for the family to share, he went chaos. I assume someone taught him how to put passwords on computer because when he got back from school one day, he had put a pw on the computer and from that only he used it. When my dad would want the PW, he oftentimes disobeyed and now he has all these things he own and now he thinks everything is his even the stuff that really is mine. He thinks he is the boss of the house and I HATE it. What I need is to find some way to stop him from thinking that.
 
ah, one of those people. lol. ok.

honestly, the ONLY thing thatll get through to those types, are serious emotional events. or a good butt kicking. i suggest the latter.

sorry, but unless you get physical, youre just going to get pushed around. time to grow up my friend. take your stand. now is your time.
 
Oh, so your brother is the pushy type? If you suggest doing this the peaceful way, I can suggest something.

If your brother is pushy, ignore him. I did that when I had problems with a bully, and the bully eventually left me alone. But if he contiunes to pick on you, maybe you could try humor. Tell him jokes or prank him. He'll be surprised and leave you alone, probably.

I hope this helps. :)
 
Don't be a pushover. Save for a real computer and in the meantime don't listen to him. Don't even be nice to him. Swallow everything until 18. This won't get you anywhere, but it's the best way to handle it peacefully. Saying no will help as well.
 
Why does everyone say doing nothing will help? It doesn't. I tried to do this for over 4 years with some...guy, he finally stopped when I got physical. Just like PokeMedic said, punch him square in the face, problem sorted. Your being too soft, to put it nicely, pin him down and smack him, and again and again, and again just to make sure he gets the picture. Give him the look every now and then saying:

"That's my wi-fi..."
 
Guys, it's possible for BunnyBuner to stand up for himself without getting physical. To be completely honest, the majority of the suggestions in this thread are getting out of hand (repeatedly smacking him?) and are quite repetitive.

Best of luck in trying to solve your problem, BunnyBuner, but I'm afraid I'm gonna have to lock this thread.
 
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