I seem different to everyone on the forums and in real life. I don't know what it is, I'm polite, kind but that dosn't seem to work... At school I am a sheep since I follow everyone. I have been bullied for 8 years, since I look wierd, any suggestions??
I always seem to be lonely...
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raichupika33 said:
Different is good. It makes you unique from everyone else, which is awesome. I am different too, from most people. But that's a good thing. Don't let it worry you too much
As for the bullying...
Learn martial arts so you can defend yourself. It will work. But don't abuse the power you get from it!
I get bullied mentally, name calling and that.
In fact, I do know how to kick properly, my black-belt brother taught me.
In fact, I do know how to kick properly, my black-belt brother taught me.
You're a poet and you do know it!
Ugh bullys, I feel so sorry for you. Right threaten to tell a teacher or police. REMEMBER don't do anything that you will regret. I know it sounds stupid but try and ignore it. We're here for ya' and I think everyone at pokebeach is. ^_^
Well I am ^_^
Well I am ^_^
Just ignore them long enough, and they'll stop.
Yeah I used to be in the same situation as you, just ignore it and if they decide to fight you make sure you win cause then usually never bully anyone. Most of the time these kids are just complete losers whose life might be bullying you or others. Just don't stoop down to their level. Hope my advice helps.
Thanks everyone ^_^.
First of all differences are usually bad. Everyone is different, but not that much. Try to "fit in". Don't follow people all the time. It makes you look stupid, like no one really wants to be your friend, but you want to be friends with them. I lead and follow, depending on the situation. To me, the best way to go in life, is the epic way. It doesn't matter what you do, but make sure it's epic. There's this kid named Mingi at my school, who has lots of umm...uhh..."problems". Why doesn't everyone just hate him and ignore him? Because he's epic. He does everything with style. Unfortunately, you don't have mental "issues", and if your not so could socially, find something else to be epic at. Go play a sport or and instrument or something.PokeChamp said:Different is good. It makes you unique from everyone else, which is awesome. I am different too, from most people. But that's a good thing. Don't let it worry you too muchraichupika33 said:
Flygon Jedi Master said:First of all differences are usually bad. Everyone is different, but not that much. Try to "fit in". Don't follow people all the time. It makes you look stupid, like no one really wants to be your friend, but you want to be friends with them. I lead and follow, depending on the situation. To me, the best way to go in life, is the epic way. It doesn't matter what you do, but make sure it's epic. There's this kid named Mingi at my school, who has lots of umm...uhh..."problems". Why doesn't everyone just hate him and ignore him? Because he's epic. He does everything with style. Unfortunately, you don't have mental "issues", and if your not so could socially, find something else to be epic at. Go play a sport or and instrument or something.PokeChamp said:Different is good. It makes you unique from everyone else, which is awesome. I am different too, from most people. But that's a good thing. Don't let it worry you too muchraichupika33 said:
Differences are not bad. They are the only thing that makes us unique. Without that, we have nothing.
There is an obvious difference between being different, and being unique. If you are different that means that you are not able to conform into a group easily, and that makes it easy to target you for ridicule. Being unique is fine, but uniqueness is mainly just about looking, talking, and acting in your own way, while still being able to function in a group.
How old are you? I remember that when I was in Elementary School I was just a sheep. I was still important, but I was never able to break away into my own person. If you are just making the transition to Junior High School then you may also just be having trouble developing your own personality. While you are adjusting to the new surroundings that you have you may feel intimidated by other people. Give yourself time and allow for yourself to develop into a unique person. You may have to cut a couple of old friends loose, not everybody can fit into your life, and everybody goes in different ways.
If you look weird... fix it.
If you are being bullied... wait it out.
Politeness is not the way to everybody's heart, you have to be yourself.
How old are you? I remember that when I was in Elementary School I was just a sheep. I was still important, but I was never able to break away into my own person. If you are just making the transition to Junior High School then you may also just be having trouble developing your own personality. While you are adjusting to the new surroundings that you have you may feel intimidated by other people. Give yourself time and allow for yourself to develop into a unique person. You may have to cut a couple of old friends loose, not everybody can fit into your life, and everybody goes in different ways.
If you look weird... fix it.
If you are being bullied... wait it out.
Politeness is not the way to everybody's heart, you have to be yourself.
PokeChamp said:raichupika33 said:
Different is good. It makes you unique from everyone else, which is awesome. I am different too, from most people. But that's a good thing. Don't let it worry you too much
As for the bullying...
Learn martial arts so you can defend yourself. It will work. But don't abuse the power you get from it!
Riachupika, this helps mentally and physically. You can relieve your stress by punching/kickking pads and helps you defend yourself like Pokechamp stated. Relieveing stress as in worrying about being left out, bullying comments, ECT.
As for trying not to be lonely, try to find your own group of friends. At our school, ppl don't really pay attention to you because everyone at my age have cliques. Me and about 7 other girls hang out daily, talk about stuff, text, aim, mall, and usual stuff friends do. Ppl are most likely not to bully you if you have a gruop of friends you hang around alot, but if you're always by yourself, that gives people a chance to bully you, find your faults, and get a reaction from you which is amusing to them. I can't lie, I've bullied people in the past with my friends and probably a lot of you reading this probably have, too. The most common thing that makes you do it in the first place is peer pressure. Of course I know it's wrong, but I was too stupid to fall into peer pressure like that. The reason why it's so funny is because when bullies bully you, it's funny to get a reaction of some sort and it's just a thing to do when you feel like you need respect but that's not the solution at all. I just be myself around everyone and talk like I'm a regular person even though I have stuff about me that my friends can laugh at, and I could do the same for them, but friends are friends who don't care who you are on the outside, but in the inside and your personality overall. So to put this whole paragraph into one thing, TALK to people and forget about that feeling of loniliness, it's always a new day ;D
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Lay low, and observe. Don't open your mouth, and tell the bully that your mom taught you how bullies want a reaction, and not to give them one. When you lay low, and don't make any comments or combacks, they will eventually go away.
Part 2: observe: Think about why and how they insult you. Compare what about you they bully, to similar of their traits, and find out to verbaly defend your self. Also, the best advise i can give you is to always stay calm. Never get angry or sad. Keep a straight face, and when they insult you, laugh and say "I guess so", or whatever, walk away, laughing, just loud enough for them to hear it. It worked for my friend, hopefully it will workk for you.
Part 2: observe: Think about why and how they insult you. Compare what about you they bully, to similar of their traits, and find out to verbaly defend your self. Also, the best advise i can give you is to always stay calm. Never get angry or sad. Keep a straight face, and when they insult you, laugh and say "I guess so", or whatever, walk away, laughing, just loud enough for them to hear it. It worked for my friend, hopefully it will workk for you.
Hmm... since I'm a tiny freshman, i expected to get picked on, but the truth is, the way to make people like you is to be outgoing, not always polite, but just joke around a lot and be the nice fun person
I been through it all kid, and I don't care. Here's why.
These kids know NOTHING ABOUT YOU. Why does it matter what they think? They don't know you. Even when you get older, and some jerk honks at you on the road because he doesn't like that you won't speed or some stupid crap, why should you care? The only people who can hurt me are the people I know, because they know me too, and if they say something about me...they're probably right. And if what they are saying about you IS true, then fix it.
Also, anyone who tells you that people are bullies because they have a rough life, are rarely right. Life isn't like that. Some people are just malicious. And more often, because they've had such a good life. They don't know suffering. They always got they wanted and they intend to keep it that way.
As for how you look, again, why care? You were born that way and it's nothing that can be naturally changed. Anyone who does care is simply shallow and not worth your time.
You have to stand up and be proud of yourself. You have to show people that you have no fear. The world is a gruesome place, and most people aren't good natured. Nobody is a perfect person, and the people that seem great right now will probably live terrible lives when they are out of high school.I know people who used to hound me that already have kids, some who are stoned 24/7, and others who are in jail. And I don't look at it as revenge, I really pity them. They were born into a society that defends and encourages this behavior. In the end, it's not their fault, and I have nothing left but to forgive them.
And if you want to encourage that behavior, you have to forgive to. Don't hate anyone who ever picks on you or puts you down, or whatever else. The future is uncertain, and for people like me, ends at death. There are likely no second chances. Forgive and forget.
These kids know NOTHING ABOUT YOU. Why does it matter what they think? They don't know you. Even when you get older, and some jerk honks at you on the road because he doesn't like that you won't speed or some stupid crap, why should you care? The only people who can hurt me are the people I know, because they know me too, and if they say something about me...they're probably right. And if what they are saying about you IS true, then fix it.
Also, anyone who tells you that people are bullies because they have a rough life, are rarely right. Life isn't like that. Some people are just malicious. And more often, because they've had such a good life. They don't know suffering. They always got they wanted and they intend to keep it that way.
As for how you look, again, why care? You were born that way and it's nothing that can be naturally changed. Anyone who does care is simply shallow and not worth your time.
You have to stand up and be proud of yourself. You have to show people that you have no fear. The world is a gruesome place, and most people aren't good natured. Nobody is a perfect person, and the people that seem great right now will probably live terrible lives when they are out of high school.I know people who used to hound me that already have kids, some who are stoned 24/7, and others who are in jail. And I don't look at it as revenge, I really pity them. They were born into a society that defends and encourages this behavior. In the end, it's not their fault, and I have nothing left but to forgive them.
And if you want to encourage that behavior, you have to forgive to. Don't hate anyone who ever picks on you or puts you down, or whatever else. The future is uncertain, and for people like me, ends at death. There are likely no second chances. Forgive and forget.
Well I am ot outgoing, very shy, I guess I like to have fun but be serious and alert aswell. I think I get bullied because I look wierd and that people think am well...
BE YOURSELF
do not compromise this ever. just because you are going through a rough patch now doesn't mean it will last forever. You need to stay determined and not compromise and in the long run you will be better for it. I know this probably does not help your situation now but you need to think about it like that.
Surely you are not the only person in your school that is by yourself. somewhere there is probably someone else being picked on for the same reason. why not be friends with them. also bullies are idiots. yes they do have friends and hang around in large groups but mostly do it to show off to others. if they are bullying you mentally then give it straight back to them. who knows you may hit a nerve or once they realise that you are going to stand up for yourself they will turn their attention to someone else. i don't think kicking them in the throat is probably the right path to take but it certainly is creative if not violent so you might want to stay away from that path choice.
hope this helped
^This.
Honestly, I hate when people insult me or my friends. I will find a opening and talk back xD. This is not a good way to solve problem, but its just me. I get offended easily, thus I will surely protect my honor. BUT, know your position first, if you know you can't win, go away. Do something you're best at, show off and they dare not touch you,even if you looks wierd or anything. Why? Because there's certainly a few people around you to help.
I think bully was your main problem, not lonely. Lonely is caused yourself. Step up your confidence, speak a little, and you might break through that social barrier ^^ Maybe people didn't know you much because you rarely talk?
Honestly, I hate when people insult me or my friends. I will find a opening and talk back xD. This is not a good way to solve problem, but its just me. I get offended easily, thus I will surely protect my honor. BUT, know your position first, if you know you can't win, go away. Do something you're best at, show off and they dare not touch you,even if you looks wierd or anything. Why? Because there's certainly a few people around you to help.
I think bully was your main problem, not lonely. Lonely is caused yourself. Step up your confidence, speak a little, and you might break through that social barrier ^^ Maybe people didn't know you much because you rarely talk?