loved one wants to inlist

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I take it from the lack of response is that he's still in panic stage and probably has a deficit of reasoning.

Though what would the chances be that she would be sent into an active war zone? Then again I'm not sure about the American military policy.
 
i do support her and shes not the type she wants kids when she finishes college or while shes in college so she couldnt go while she pregnant and then she wouldnt wanna leave the baby but then she wants to go and i hoping she changes her mind like i do support her but if i can change her mind i wanna cause im worried about her cause she is my world and everything

im not being selfish u all have no idea about our relationship and what weve been through in the past i love her very much and dont wanna risk her getting hurt or killed i wanna marry her someday cause of how much i love her and if i have to ill join the military with her and if we get deployed ill be with her and if something happens ill die for her shes my love and its all i truely have left *starts to cry* like i cry myself to sleep thinking about what life would be like without her if something were to happen
 
INFERNAPE112892 said:
i do support her and shes not the type she wants kids when she finishes college or while shes in college so she couldnt go while she pregnant and then she wouldnt wanna leave the baby but then she wants to go and i hoping she changes her mind like i do support her but if i can change her mind i wanna cause im worried about her cause she is my world and everything

im not being selfish u all have no idea about our relationship and what weve been through in the past i love her very much and don't wanna risk her getting hurt or killed i wanna marry her someday cause of how much i love her and if i have to ill join the military with her and if we get deployed ill be with her and if something happens ill die for her shes my love and its all i truely have left *starts to cry* like i cry myself to sleep thinking about what life would be like without her if something were to happen
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Okay, first relax. I'm trying to read your post without any interpunction :/. But wait, you're are only 16 right? And you girlfriend probably too? Isn't that way too young to know about real love (I'm not saying you don't know, just most don't know yet at that age), and isn't that way too young to start talking about children and things like that? But okay, let's say that is right for God's sake.

I could sound a little bit weird, but I think you're too much in love with her, you're obsessed with her, no offend though. Think about you own future, don't follow her. If she wants to join the military, let her join and follow your own dreams. There's still a change you both won't be deployed at the same time if needed or to the same area. And like said before, because she's a woman, she wouldn't probably get hurt that fast. Joining the military only for her would be... useless to satisfy your demands (sorry if it all sounds that mean, it's just like that.)
 
INFERNAPE112892 said:
i do support her and shes not the type she wants kids when she finishes college or while shes in college so she couldnt go while she pregnant and then she wouldnt wanna leave the baby but then she wants to go and i hoping she changes her mind like i do support her but if i can change her mind i wanna cause im worried about her cause she is my world and everything

im not being selfish u all have no idea about our relationship and what weve been through in the past i love her very much and don't wanna risk her getting hurt or killed i wanna marry her someday cause of how much i love her and if i have to ill join the military with her and if we get deployed ill be with her and if something happens ill die for her shes my love and its all i truely have left *starts to cry* like i cry myself to sleep thinking about what life would be like without her if something were to happen
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you realize im an adult right? i KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOURE GOING THRU! ive never done this before, but pokebeach will have the privilege of knowing me, and part of my life.

here we go....


i'll tell you about my life since you dont want to listen. maybe it'll help.

me and the wife met in my SUPER senior year in high school. wow look at that, ive already been thru more than you. lol.

we hit it off pretty hard. it was nice. reminded me of back when i was a kid and was all giddy and whatnot around girls. haha.

she was perfect.

we hung out as much as we could because her parents were super hardcore christians and mine were catholic. instant battle right there.

we had to overcome a lot.

some time later, we decided on having a baby girl because she didnt want to leave me. this is the "plan" that we came up with.

oh, btw, we're still in school (HS) at this point.

she finds out it works (duh), and she's pregnant. her mother demands that she gets an abortion!?!?! a christian saying to get an abortion?!?!?!

she's (wife) had enough and runs away to live with my family.

a lot of crap ensues thereafter. cops become involved in with the school, trouble brews. but we get through it.

later on, 2 years later to be exact, she decides to join the air force. she passes with a score of almost 80+. for the air force type asvab, thats really freaking GREAT!

i dont want her to do it. but she has her mind set. we have a child, and trying to get through nursing school, but she wants to throw her medical career away to join the air force. i tell her to think about us, me and the baby, but she still wanted to do it.

im 23yrs old, and my wife is 21, my daughter is going to be 3 in jan.

my wife ended up not joining the air force after i did a ton of research and had my dad talk to her since he is currently in the army 5 yrs away from being able to finally retire (so 15yrs service so far). he told her of how terrible it is to new enlistees, and if you dont have any type of college education, youre pretty much screwed.

this is the best i can tell you.

let her know go through with college first. you say she is in JROTC (im assuming "J" because you sound like you are still in high school), tell her to go to college first, go through ROTC, then join the military because the benefits are INCREDIBLE when you do it this way. you start off as an elisted officer making an easy 4k a month. thats a lot for military salary!!!

trust me, instead of stopping her, tell her to do it in a different route. tell her to go to a university that has ROTC and she'll be fine as officers obtain the BEST jobs in the military and are usually nowhere near the combat zones. ;)

hope this will help you understand i DO KNOW WHAT IM TALKING ABOUT
 
so what if im only 16 going on 17 ive gone out with several girls and then i met her and omg things just fell together and ive talked to her about it alot and this morning we had the discussion about me joining with her after college cause with the field im going into ppl are getting laid off and the best jobs are in the military
 
INFERNAPE112892 said:
so what if im only 16 going on 17 ive gone out with several girls and then i met her and omg things just fell together and ive talked to her about it alot and this morning we had the discussion about me joining with her after college cause with the field im going into ppl are getting laid off and the best jobs are in the military
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im gonna tell you this right now. the best jobs are NOT in the mililtary. trust me.
 
Good for her! If she wants to join the military, it's her choice. Still, it's nice that you're concerned. My cousin joined the military last year and may be going out to Iraq soon. I'm worried about him, but he's doing what makes him happy.
 
... the only thing I can gather from your post is that you just ignored everything everyone said and just repeated your first post. If you're not going to value our opinion when it doesn't support you...

Then again it just might be because I can't read your post :/
 
Maybe try to get her to join a non-violent position in the millitary. There are many positions that don't require her to be invvolved in combat.

If she insists, all you can do is try to convince her out of it. Use logic, and pray.
 
well ive talked to her and she said IF she does inlist she will choose a position that wont involve combat at all
 
Then why are you so worried about her enlisting in the military then if she doesn't plan on getting into a combat zone? She has the same chances of getting killed at her home on a daily basis as she would if she joined the military. Besides, you may look back at this in a year and not be with her anymore, especially at your age.
 
i plan on being with her for as long as possible and if we last long enough ill be proposing to her around this time next yr so we'll both me 18
 
Lieutenant Houndoom said:
... that definitely sounds like that would go over well. Hands up anyone who knows of a couple who's stuck together since teenage years?
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I do. They met, he was 19, she was 17. That was almost 30 years ago.
 
Lieutenant Houndoom said:
Well, I just must be getting cynical in my old age XD
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If you are cynical now, wait till you get to my age.
 
*raises hand*

So there's no problem after all...? Like said before, let's see first if both of you are still together next year, that should be your worst concern for now.
 
If you do succeed in changing her mind, she could end up resenting you.
 
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