Suitcune said:That's why people don't usually get married 3 months after they meet.
I was married after 6 months. It has been 23 years.
Suitcune said:That's why people don't usually get married 3 months after they meet.
theducktamer said:I will state this before I add my two cents:
- I'm in a 4 year relationship and we plan on getting married around early summer next year
- I'm also a Christian
- I'm a woman
- I'm also quite young. I'll be 21 in June.
I've watched many marriages grow and succeed and many crumble and fail in my life time. Even though I'm young, I've seen many different 'marriage' scenarios. Marriage is good for some and bad for others.
I personally see it as a permanent commitment to one other person. You're pretty much committing your entire life to them. Promising to cherish them for the remainder of your life. Marriage isn't all about politics and government 'rewards'. There are perks in those areas, yes, but marriage is so much more than that.
It's an official promise to your partner that you love them unconditionally and you want to spend the rest of your life with them at your side. And in a Christian point of view, it's a promise to God that you will grow with this one person spiritually and become a single unit.
My boyfriend and I follow the "no sex before marriage" rule because that's also something we see as a special gift once you get married.
If you aren't ready to commit to someone for the rest of your life, then don't get married. It's pretty simple. I think many more marriages would be successful if both parties sat down and thought really hard about what marriage actually means. The wedding ceremony really means nothing. It's just a party. It doesn't prove that a couple is ready to be married. It doesn't prove that they have unconditional love for each other.
One of the biggest reasons for divorce right now is money. I've also seen many people get married because the girl got pregnant and then they divorced because they relationship was really bad. That's also why I follow the no sex before marriage thing. If you can commit yourself to another person for the rest of your life, you are in a much better position emotionally to start a family and be committed to it.
CCloud said:^If you're not Christian or are not a fan of marriage, you're a bad person according to this guy, apparently.
CCloud said:bad person
Mora said:Faith in humanity = restored. Seriously, the world needs more people like you with your set of values.
Mora said:Seriously, the world needs more people like you with your set of values.
CCloud said:Still, you imply some sort of superiority for those who hold those particular values (Christian, waiting until marriage to have sex, somehow needing marriage to be accountable for your commitment).